What To Do If You Have Doubts?
How to fight your doubts away
Wedding is a big day in any person’s life. People spend years searching for the right person to marry and then another several months full of busy tasks and nerve-racking moments preparing for the event. Sometimes we are so much into this preparation process that we do not even pay attention to our emotional status. It does not seem to be so relevant what exactly we feel, when there are plus 10 things left on the list. As a result, all the thoughts and concerns overwhelm us during the last week before the day. Most often, we face with questions that place some doubts in our souls and minds. And the most common one has to do with how right our choice is. No matter how perfect your relationship is, you will experience such a period anyway. So read on to find out how to overcome these bothering and frustrating doubts.
How To Fight The Most Common Pre-Wedding Doubts
First of all, calm down. Even though it seems that you are totally running out of time and are not not going to complete everything on time, you will manage to. Everyone goes through the very same process and everyone manages to make it successfully to the very end. So trust me, you are not going to become an exception. The moment you stop worrying about every single piece, your overall condition will get much better and hence you will stay in a better mood. Of course it is impossible to stay completely cool, but you can at least you can try to not pay attention to some tiny things.
If the above tip does not work with you at all and you still find it very hard to overcome the numerous doubts that overwhelm you, then there is a very easy way to help you get rid of them. Get a piece of paper and a pencil and make a list of all your doubts and questions in a very precise and detailed manner. It is not going to take you more than 20 minutes, but once you finish with this simple assignment, y0u will have all your concerns visible and right in front of you. Now you can start considering every each of them. Do your best to answer your own questions and contradict your doubts. For instance, if you are wondering about what your relationship would be like in 5 years, simply imagine things. What would you yourself like to be in 5 years? Our thoughts and ideas have a tendency to come to life, so think positively and won’t even notice how great life will be.
Also, a very important step to take is to make an extensive list of your beloved one’s features. All the character trait that you can think of should appear on this list. And the best way would be to make separate ones for positive and negative qualities. I have no doubt that the second list is going to be way shorter than the first one, so this will definitely reinforce your confidence about the choice you made. You are free to mention every single detail that is worth of considering and – after finishing – compare these two data sheets.With every good trait imagine situation where such a feature could be useful, whereas the negative traits can also be of a good use. Try to come up with the way such a feature can be improved and eradicated. This will give you some more topics to digest on and will keep from falling into panic and tons of doubts. Meantime, you will not consider these very traits as something awful and devastating anymore – so your whole attitude toward your beloved one will improve in a significant way.
And lastly, visualize. It is the images that we draw that drive both ourselves and the world, so keep it up to the level. Print out your laughing pictures and hang them around your place so that you spot two happy faces whenever you brush your teeth or cook a dinner for instance. Set the same images as a desktop and homesrceen profiles. You will find it very useful to look at your delightful face expressions every day and literally forget about all the problems.
Just one small tip to follow. Whereas it is also nice to keep silent and not to give anything away, this is not the case. One got to talk. Be it your family member, a closed fried or a qualified professional, you will feel much better after you sound out all your concerns. do not hesitate to do that, since once you speak them out you may realize how irrelevant they are and hence all your doubts will simply vanish.